66: The Dark Truths of Successful Relationships with Jake Thiessen, PhD

Welcome to the podcast! Today I am delighted to be joined by Jake Thiessen, PhD, a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist with a private practice in Lemoyne, Pennsylvania.    Jake’s orientation to psychotherapy is existential and experiential.  What that means is that he believes the most productive focus of therapy is on the here-and-now as opposed to the there-and-then. Granted, we are all, in many ways, the product of our history. As a result, it is often important to explore events from the past.    Although he frequently works with individuals, Jake’s primary interest is in relationship difficulties. As humans, we are essentially relational and emotional beings. Because of this, he works with couples whenever possible.   Jake believes change occurs most efficiently in the context of an intimate relationship where we have an opportunity to feel accepted just as we are. Most of us want to feel that no matter how messed up we are, we are still lovable and deserve respect. Psychotherapy offers a safe environment to address those things that keep us from feeling loved and respected.  What you’ll hear in this episode  
  • How Jake became interested in this line of work  
  • The dark truths couples struggle with when they come to therapy  
  • How holding onto certain truths and trying to be dominate can damage a relationship  
  • The ways in which curiosity can help navigate these difficult areas  
Resources  https://www.couplesatcrossroads.com   Novels recommended by Jake  https://www.amazon.com/Sweet-Hereafter-Novel-Russell-Banks/dp/0060923245   https://www.amazon.com/Prince-Tides-Novel-Pat-Conroy/dp/0553381547   https://www.amazon.com/Great-Santini-Novel-Pat-Conroy/dp/0553381555