My guest today is Dr. Nicolle Zapien, psychotherapist, certified sex therapist, and college professor at the California Institute of Integral Studies in San Francisco, CA. Dr. Zapien talks about a topic that affects many people: infidelity. Specifically, we take a closer look at the process a person goes through when choosing to have an extramarital affair. Join us for this compelling conversation!
What you’ll hear in this episode:
The questions that really matter about relationships usually involve betrayal and infidelity
Why these issues matter SO much
How to create a safe container for hurt feelings
Why perception lies at the heart of the matter
What is monogamy and what is betrayal?
Why this area is difficult for therapists to address
Nicolle’s research studies and findings
The motivation to have an affair: the beginning
Commonality: lackluster sex and connection
Why one partner sees himself/herself as entitled to a novel experience
“And then IT happened . . .”
The process: a series of steps
Being mindful of an erotic atmosphere
Flirting: What is it and when is it dangerous?
Nicolle’s sex educator certificate track, beginning in January!
Why very few couples are able to work through these issues
Why so many couples can’t negotiate eroticism safely
How to teach negotiation through shared experiences and how technology HINDERS these skills